You need to reassure her that you take her feelings and emotions very seriously. Let her know that all she shares with you, pertaining to the intimate secrets of her life, will be kept private. Confidential matters will not be shared with anyone.
The embodiment of trust becomes very crucial in maintaining your dating relationship with her. Treat it as special and very sacred. It's important for you to realize that love stories are not told. They are lived. Biologically, a woman's metabolism changes, and she undergoes high and low levels of estrogen, which affect her moods. All women are like this, with some worse and some better than others.
The majority of men can't handle the situation and will verbally and even physically attack women in a very vicious, malicious manner. You have men who, to the third degree, are beaters and abusers of women. The courts are filled with cases of domestic violence and abuse. These men are unschooled and untrained to diplomatically handle and deal with women who, month in and month out, go through this cycle. This is a way of life for women. The men they care about the most lack tenderness and compassion for their well-being
to help them through the stormy weather of life.
It's sad and pathetic, but these ignorant, uneducated men are given the boot and thrown outside into the cold. You need to realize that her moods and her feelings operate hand-in-hand and need to be dealt with accordingly. When she is irritated, don't try to be a problem solver; just be supportive. Let her know that you understand, and that you are with her every step of the way. When she is feeling better you will know it by the way she warms up to you and shows her love for you. Always make her feel loved and wanted regardless of what she feels or says for the moment. Don't take her moodiness personally. Just accept it as a way of life, and learn how to cope with it.
There may be times when she wants to be left alone. Be understanding of that and give her space. When you are not with her, and doing your own thing, go ahead and give her a call to see how she's doing. Just calling her to say "Hello" is enough to brighten up her spirits and put her in a good frame of mind. It's important to realize that the mind and body of a woman and a man are different. You don't need to necessarily understand what makes her tick. Just accept her for who she is and go along with her. Your job is to soothe her emotionally and to prove that you have all the great moves to keep her smiling. When she starts talking about her feelings, interrupt and ask her questions such as "How did that make you feel?" This shows her that you care about her life and are sensitive to her feelings. You are willing to give her your undivided attention. Women loathe men who don't pay attention by listening to their problems. These men cut them off in the middle of a conversation. You need to compliment her on the way she does things, such as handling her problems at work, how well she cooks up a gourmet meal, and her outlook on life in general. These are the little things that you can say to make her happy.
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